The Continuum Concept|
Comments by Win Wenger
I agree 100% with Kevin and am delighted to have his piece in
Let me add how essential I believe is the constant, consistent contact with an adult caregiver. How does the child learn what is real and what is not, or even what's inside him and what's not? By shared responses to common stimuli.
The phone rings, he heard it and his mother hurries to answer, so she heard it also, therefore it's real. He imagines a voice, a sound, dreams a flash of light, experiences a twinge or a gurgle in his stomach, mama doesn't respond, the stimulus wasn't shared in common.
This is where we learn to sort out what's internal and external and real and unreal. Each perception ratified by mama's shared reaction is a
foundation-stone for his emerging conscious mind. Without this, many children reach school (school, of all dangerous places!) with next to no conscious mind to steer by.
Even if Junior later turns to a very different set of values, a very
different philosophy, he has to develop one in the first place. We are geared to do that through shared reactions to common stimuli in infancy with a consistent adult caregiver. Even the best day-care system in the world cannot give Junior this essential. Let me underscore what Kevin has said here, and surround it with trumpets. This truth is terribly inconvenient, but it IS the truth!